I regret ever telling him because of how it affected our friendship, I miss just being able to hang out with him without wondering if he is thinking that I’m still crushing on him (which I’m not). I lost someone who got me and accepted my weird quirks the day I hit the send button. And although it was nice to be able to close that door, it shut another one as well…one that I wasn’t ready to close.
Step 1: Learn from my mistakes, if you have a close friend that you are crushing on, think about it first. Weigh your pros with your cons. I know you think that an answer, regardless of what it is, will set you free. But remember the other person has to deal with this new information, and hasn’t had as long as you to think about it… so give them time and space.
Step 2: If you decide that you are going to tell them/talk to them then do it with care. DO NOT, I repeat do not, tell them over Facebook/AIM/Google +/Twitter/a blog post (I think you get the idea). If you can’t do it in person then you probably shouldn’t.
Step 3: Be honest. Remember in grade school when your teacher used to scold you for telling tales and say “Honesty is the best policy!” Well he was right. If you can’t be honest about your feelings, or hold back, why would they want to be honest with you?
Make sure to keep in mind that this isn’t always going to end like it does in the movies. There won’t be a dramatic song playing in the background, the object of your affection will most likely NOT run into your arms kissing you telling you how they’ve waited for this to happen. There will most likely be an awkward pause, a lot of shoe glancing and it will end with him saying “so lets just be friends.”